Sunday, April 30, 2006

I'm Engaged!

This weekend had just been such a whirlwind that I could not even fathom how I was able to get through it breathing as normal. How can I focus on my Finals this week when 80% of the time, I am just staring at this beautiful piece of jewelry, realizing and absorbing that my life is about to change quicker than I can even realize it.

I got engaged yesterday, and it was one of the most unsuspecting moments in my life. When it happened, the whole world stopped. Seriously. Words fail me now, and I can't even explain best how the whole "experience" fell into place and felt so right, both for David and I. It was very honest and very beautiful.

Again, I'll skip the gazillion details, but it involved a very nice homecooked 3-course Filet Mignon dinner, The Alchemist, the sunset, the perfect timing, the perfect spot, lots of strength and a 14 year-old bottle of Dom Perignon.

I immediately emailed my family and my very close friends, and it was a very good feeling to hear back how happy and excited they are of the news. Some of them called me screaming, and some even in tears. I was also able to talk to my... err... future mother-in-law (woah, did that sound right?) and she is very psyched and told me about how she knew all along - and that my parents knew all along too!

Sorry but I can't help but be cheesy now. But yeah, I guess this is it. David is The One.





David got down on one knee with this. It's perfect. He is so good at taking notes during my girl talks! :)

And now the wedding planning officially begins.

Thursday, April 27, 2006

How Fast is Fast?

When you break it off with someone,how necessary is it to give it "time" to be with someone new?

But what if you are the type of person who can turn off like a switch whenever you want? Is there a way to find compromise in this situation?

Saturday, April 22, 2006

Wholesome, And Then Some

The Internet is For Porn
For David's birthday, I treated him to a night out in the city - starting from chocolate cake, a nice dinner at the Yale Club, then a broadway musical (Avenue Q). All was nice and wholesome, until we saw puppets proclaiming unabashedly what the Internet is really for, and showing us a little sample show! ;-) Beats the Patpong scene in Bangkok!

Nice and Sexy
That seemed to be the primary theme from today's little striptease/pole dancing class we did for a good friend's bachelorette party. I'll skip the rest of the details and leave it at that. Let's just say, there was an abundance of net stockings, feathers and high-heeled boots. It was fun!

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

Think

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life (...) Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do."
- Steve Jobs, CEO Apple

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Blanked

A lot of things have been going on both at work and school, that my mind is going blank and could not think of anything to write. Blah blah blah.

With that said, I shall let Joyce Purnick of Times Select indulge you with this article I read that I found so interesting about New York:

Adventures in the City of Dreams

NOT too long ago, a colleague transferring to the city from a foreign assignment said he looked forward to finally figuring out how New York works. Optimistic fellow.

I've been writing Metro Matters for years and I still haven't figured out how or why New York City works.

Because it does work, when logically a city of 8.2 million people from everywhere should be dysfunctional.

New York thrives on imagination and reinvention. Ever-changing, it is more an idea than a place, a fantasy that has developed the veneer of reality because we New Yorkers believe in the fairy tale. The ultimate urban myth.

A pack of newspapers and radio and TV stations cover our mayor as if every word he utters has earthshaking importance, which it does not. But assuming that it does knits New Yorkers together, gives us something in common — that outrageous or boring or flaky character in City Hall.

Our wondrous subway system theoretically connects us, but even though it jams us against each other all the time, we don't connect much. We just want to think we do, which is grand.

New York City is, of course, a jigsaw of ethnic and racial enclaves, of the rich, the poor and the in-between, of the struggling immigrant and the billionaire businessman and the diligent striver. We occupy our own worlds and know that other worlds live next door — but few of us drop by.

How many Upper West Siders know that a population of Mexicans is growing quickly on Staten Island, drawn to the red-state (for now) borough to tend lawns?

How many young people from neighborhoods just a few miles away from Times Square have never seen it?

Friends who live in Midtown Manhattan recently confessed that they always insist on seeing the outskirts of any city they visit. But they've never been to Flushing.

To qualify for a MetroCard, New Yorkers should have to take the Staten Island ferry round-trip once a year to look over at the Statue of Liberty, and ride the No. 7 line through startlingly polyglot Queens. Getting off at a few stops to look around wouldn't be a bad idea, either.

MAYBE our separateness together is what keeps us going. We clash furiously every now and again, then calm down because we have to.

New York keeps going through bad times, attacks, injustices, fiscal woes and bad leadership — inevitably followed by better leadership. The place is admirably resilient and demanding. New Yorkers kvetch — an admirable survival technique.

So is self-interest. The city always was, and still is, mostly about money. Its economic, political and journalistic establishments demand a semblance of stability and restore it when imbalance threatens the bottom line. Then the politicians have to respond.

Which brings me to a few observations about politics.

¶Those elected officials who would like journalists to go away would expire of neglect if they got their wish.

¶Some politicians do indeed care about the public, but most first care about their own survival. They need frequent, even rude, reminders about who employs whom.

¶Dishonest elected officials who manipulate judgeships and misspend the public's money truly believe they are doing nothing wrong, because in their world, they aren't — which is why journalists must forever invade that world.

¶Advocates for admirable causes are not immune to the hyperbole and distortion we associate with politicians. As effective kvetchers, they are essential — just not always right.

¶Follow the money. Always follow the money.

If all this has been sounding existential, and readers are wondering what's up, it is this: I have decided to move on from this column after nearly 10 years to face new writing challenges at The Times, and my editors have graciously granted my wish.

I think it is essential for journalists to keep reinventing themselves, just as New York City does.

To fellow columnists, one suggestion: Deliver a swift (nonviolent) kick from me to those who say, "Oh, so you write twice a week? Have you ever considered working full time?"

To readers: Thank you for the privilege of letting me write about the city that I love, which I do even though it exists only because we all think it does. Keep on thinking that, New York, and it will ever be so.

--- End of article ---

I specifically love her last paragraph - that New York only exists because we all think it does. That is a very good point and, believe it or not, I think it is true.


Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Options

We had our class at the Ogilvy HQ today. What's surprising was I felt that being in an ad agency seemed new to me again, like I have to consciously bring myself back into that world again. I have to say, 6 years ago, Advertising is my passion, and my idea of "success" was working in Madison Ave. I even remember saying to my adviser on my very first day at J. Walter Thompson that "JWT is my ideal and dream company!" I did say that with much gusto and it was from the heart - but I was young, naive and it was my first bite at the real world. Today is not 6 years ago.

For some reason, today made me especially contemplative about my career plans. When I was younger and didn't know better, I told myself that I will be in advertising, please my Clients, work late hours, sacrifice my social life and talk advertisingspeak everyday for the rest of my life.

Fast forward to today when I have been given more options, it is hard to just limit oneself to one cookie-cutter future. I feel sorry for the millions of people in the world who are destined to be only one person, to see only one place and to do only one thing. I feel like it is my mission to help others discover new things about themselves, new places, new experiences - and share mine and what I have learned so far - one person at a time. (Yuck, am I an inspirational speaker in the making? Hahaha!)

At this point, I have gotten two very good offers for a full-time internship this summer. And I am crazy to still be actively looking for more options. (Many of my classmates don't even have any to choose from) It is not greed nor arrogance. It is as simple as just checking out options.

When you live in New York City, you never run out of options. Feeling like Chinese tonight? There are thousands of Chinese restaurants, take your pick! Tired of your boyfriend? Single men in all shapes, color, mentalities and sizes are at your beck and call. Where do you want to purchase your vacuum cleaner? Amazon, Home Depot, Ebay, Chinatown, in the streets, Salvation Army, Macy's, etc.? It's so overwhelming.

Despite all this, we learned (in school) and it has been proven, that providing people more options depresses their desire to choose. Present 100 pretty purses to a fashionista and ask her to pick one, she'll get too excited and confused and most likely will hold off deciding what she likes best. Show her just 2, and most likely she will choose something she deems cuter.

Where does this purse purchasing example tie in with my career contemplating? Well, I used to think I only have a couple of options career-wise, and I was only entitled to choose one. Moreover, in my mind, I thought Manila was the only place where I can live - and die. I also thought I was doomed - I mean destined - to be married to an i__e_c__e mama's boy (Am I mean? Hehe). I obviously thought wrong.

I've always wanted to have options, and even if I denied it in the past, I knew in my heart I did. If I don't, I'd get frustrated thinking what I might have missed. That is why I dated [just enough] men in the past, and never packed light when traveling ;-) I am very blessed to have been raised by parents who provided options on my plate, and taught me well enough to know what I truly deserve. They also told me in the past that I can be anybody I want to be, and it's up to me to choose.

Career-wise, I am currently like that girl being asked to pick only 1 among 100 beautiful purses. I seriously do not know what I should pick, so I am holding off my decision until it feels right, until I feel right. I obviously don't have a hundred options, but it feels like it especially if I consider and reconsider me and David's countless options and aspirations, separated or combined. You know... the what, when, where, why and how's of life? But let's leave that for another story. :)