Living in New York for a few years, I have made a lot of friends with wonderful people in their late 20s and early 30s. Most of them are single, but highly successful in their careers. You may think that their lives revolve around getting up early, getting to work, and getting ahead. But when you ask them out for drinks after work to catch up, you find that there is more beneath this facade they are portraying.
The Corrs sang "...everybody's searching for intimacy..." and that's exactly how my friends feel. I get the privilege to listen to their masked frustrations and loneliness. And they keep asking me questions I don't have any answers for.
Sometimes I bite my lip about telling them how great marriage is, instead, I ask them if they have a hot date and get excited about the details. They would end their juicy story though telling me that the dating scene in the city is really tough. Perhaps they should move to these cities to get better chances ;-) Thank goodness anyway for Match.com.
As they blow their birthday cake every year, simultaneously they are throwing bachelorette parties and baby showers one by one - and could not explain the happiness they feel seeing a close friend get settled, but at the same time, feel empty and secretly wanting the same.
Carrie Bradshaw of Sex and the City said that in New York, you can only get two of three things: a great guy, a great job and a great apartment. The sad part is, it is almost always true. You can't have it all. That is why you pour yourself a drink, give a toast to singlehood and find strength in your married friends who always give you hope.
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nice one pam :) ok na ulit kami.. and we do have so much to be thankful for. in many ways, hk is like ny.. esp on this point. pasalamat tayo =) pero marami pa rin akong kwento!! lol mwah
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